What to do if nobody cares about you - Tony Robbins

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SignUpNow Home»TheTonyRobbinsBlog»Mind&Meaning»Whydoesnoonecareaboutme? Mind&Meaning Whydoesnoonecareaboutme? 5reasonsyoufeelthisway–andwhattodoaboutit Postedby: TeamTony We’relivinginadisconnectedworld.Despitetheinternetandsocialmedia,humansfeelmoreisolatedthanever.Forthosewhoarealreadypronetodepressionoranxiety,it’seasytogetcaughtinadownwardspiralthinking,“Noonecaresaboutme.”Butthisjustisn’ttrue.Feelingslikethisarearesultofyourmindset,ratherthanoutsidecircumstances.Youcanlearntoovercomethem. Whydoesnoonecareaboutme? It’snaturaltofeelsadorlonelysometimes.Itisn’tnormalforlonelinesstoleadtothoughtslike“noonecaresaboutme.”Ifyou’refeelinglikenoonecaresaboutyou,therecouldbeafewreasonswhy. Yourperceptioniswrong Ourbeliefscreateourworld.Thewaythatweperceiveaneventorexperienceismuchmoreimportantthanwhatactuallyhappened.Changingourperspectivecanturnchallengesintoopportunities,failureintolearningmomentsandanegativepastintoapositivefuture.Itcanalsochangeanxietyintogratitude,fearintoaccomplishment–andlonelinessintoabundance.It’slikelythatlotsofpeoplecareaboutyou.Youjustneedtochangeyourperspective,reachoutandletthemknowyouneedthem. Youpushothersaway Whenthoughtslike“nobodycaresaboutme”takeoveryourmind,doesreachingouttofriendssoundlikethelastthingyouwanttodo?Doyoufindyoudon’thavemanycloserelationships?Youmayactuallybepushingothersaway.You’llneedtoexaminethelimitingbeliefsyoucreatedinchildhoodthatarepreventingyoufromcreatingfulfillingrelationships. Yourrelationshiphaslostpassion Manyofusdependonourpartnerstoeasefeelingswe’veputonrepeat,like“noonecaresaboutme.”Whenwefeelalovedonehasgrowndistantandnolongercares,itcanbeespeciallydestructive.Therearelotsofstressorsinrelationshipshoweverthathavenothingtodowithhowmuchtheycareaboutyou–thereasoncouldbemoney,stressatworkoralossofthepolarityyoufeltwhenyoufirstmet.Gettotherootcausetorestorethefeelingsofsupportandlove. You’renotcommunicatingyourneeds Evenwhenyouhavelovingrelationshipsinyourlife,it’spossiblethattheydon’tknowwhatyouneed–ordon’tknowhowtobesupportive.Theymayhavenoideathatanythingiswrongorfeeluncomfortablebringingupyouremotionalhealth.Mostpeopledon’thaveexperiencehelpingalovedonewithdepression.Tellthemwhatyouneed.Askforahug,alongtalkorwhateversupportlookslikeforyou.  You’renotsurroundingyourselfwiththerightpeople Noteveryoneisluckyenoughtobebornwithasupportivefamily.Yetyourlimitingbeliefsmaybeholdingyoubackfromassociatingwithsupportivefriendsaswell.Beliefslike“Idon’tdeservegreatfriends”or“NoonecaresaboutmebecauseI’mnotworthit”causeyoutoacceptunhealthyrelationshipsinsteadofraisingyourstandardsandsurroundingyourselfwithgoodpeople. Whatdoyoudowhennoonecaresaboutyou? Whateverthereasonyou’rewondering“Whydoesnoonecareaboutme?,”rememberthatit’sastateofmind–notafactofreality.Youcancontrolthisfeeling,justasyoucancontrolanyotheremotion. 1.Usethepowerofreframing Meaningiseverything–andyoucanlearnhowtochangethemeaningyougiveyourexperiences,thoughtsandemotions.Insteadofthinking“noonecaresaboutme,”practicegratitudeforallthethingsyoudohaveinlife.Insteadoflettingnegativeself-talktakeoveryourmind,practiceacknowledgingthesethoughtsandlettingthemgo.You’llbegintonoticefewerandfewernegativeemotions. 2.Changeyourstory Youcan’tcontrolwhocaresaboutyou–theonlythingyoucancontrolisyourself.Youcanshiftyourmindsetfromvictimtoheroandtakebackcontrolofyourlife.Youcanrealizethatlifeishappeningforyou,nottoyou.Youdecidewhathappenstoyou.Andonlyyoucanchangeyourstoryforgood.Decidetoliveafulfillingandmeaningfullife,nomatterwhocaresaboutyouornot. 3.Takecareofyourself Whatdoyoudowhennoonecaresaboutyou?Youmustcareaboutyourself.Exercisingandfeedingyourbodytherightfuelgoalongwaytoimprovingyourmoodandmindset.Takeuphealthyhabitslikepriming,meditation,yogaorjournaling.Dosomethingyoulove.Putonyourfavoritesongandsingasloudasyoucan.Remindyourselfthatyoudon’tneedanyoneelsetofeelhappy. 4.Faceyourfears Ahardtruth:It’seasiertostayaloneandtellourselves,“nobodycaresaboutme”thanitistogetoutthereandcreaterelationships.Manyofusareafraidtoreachouttoourlovedonesforhelp.We’reafraidtomakenewfriendsorenterrelationships.We’reafraidoffailure,ofembarrassmentorofwhatothersthinkofus.Yetonlybyfacingyourfearswillyoueverstopfeelinglonely. 5.Giveback There’sareasonTonyalwayssays,“Thesecrettolivingisgiving.”Thereisnothinglikegivingbacktothoselessfortunatetomakeusrealizehowblessedwereallyare.Plus,volunteeringwillprovideyouwithacommunityoflike-mindedpeoplewhocanbecomeclosefriends.It’sagreatwaytogetoutofyourcomfortzoneandstarteasingfeelingsthatnobodycaresaboutyou. 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